Create a safe place

 

For healing to happen we need to find a safe place with safe people.

When we find a safe place, it is safe for us to be ourselves without defensiveness.

Safe people will encourage us to be who God made us to be.

They will love us – meaning that they will always work for our good.

They always have our best interest at heart.

We can grow and develop in that kind of environment.

In that environment our defenses begin to fade.

We feel safe from harm and abuse.

We feel safe from cutting criticism.

We do not have to carry the load for the others in the group.

We do not be come the “lost child.”

We are not feeling it necessary to be responsible for the feelings of those around us.

We establish boundaries.

Our boundaries are respected.

We are respected.

We are appreciated.

We are loved.

We feel loved.

We feel loved for who we are, not for our performance.

We accept love and learn to return love to others.

We no longer have to be so protective of losing our place in the system.

We are strong.

We are willing to risk loving without the promise of love in return.

We trust people who have earned our trust.

We develop discernment.

We can tell whether people are safe or not.

We begin to carefully reach out to some who are unsafe.

 

These concepts will provide for beginning the healing process.