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Reconciliation Principles

by on August 3, 2014
    • Principles
    • Restoration through redemptive action is always the goal of reconciliation
    • Do not polarize – do not escalate
    • Return good for evil, bless those who curse you
    • Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord, do not take offence
    • Do not use complicated language
    • Communicate facts and feelings
    • Do not place people in awkward and disadvantageous situations
    • Provide a “safe” place to deal with conflicts
    • There are some conflicts that should not be resolved
    • Wisdom is knowing when and how to act and when to overlook a matter
    • Do not have a conflict mentality – some people love a fight
    • Things not talked out will be acted out
    • Resolve as far as possible and then forgive all that remains
    • Opportunity for God to work in your life
    • Humility is key to reconciliation, Selfishness is the key hindrance to reconciliation
    • Have a team concept with complementary roles to utilize strengths of each
    • If you are not part of the problem or solution – stay out of the process
    • Do not blame or accuse or cover up
    • Fears of loss, feelings of threats, lack of significance or security prevents reconciliation
    • Lack of information (puzzle pieces) prevents accurate solution
    • Lack of planning causes conflict
    • Make associations based on compatibility
    • “Hurt people – hurt people”

    Practical suggestions
    1. Define the issues and terminology, clarify areas of agreement and disagreement
    2. Understand the other person’s point of view
    3. Consider options and possibilities for management of conflict
    4. Evaluate the options – take time, do not be hasty
    5. Make decisions about the wisest course of action
    6. Make plans to implement the decisions
    7. Implement the plans

  • Pray for Holy Spirit direction

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