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Insecurity – Causes and Healing

by on November 26, 2014


Causes of insecurity
Abuse – physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, etc.
Doting by parents, teachers, etc.
Lack of secure attachment cycle and bonding
Lack of love and care
Incident of divorce, death, accident, injury, etc.
Self-centered life style
Pattern of sinful self-medication

Abuse and injury can cause defensive behaviors for protection of self
Self focus does not include empathy for others
Selfishness is the protective device of the insecure person
Protecting the fragile self becomes the pattern for insecure persons.

Useful insecurity
The paradox is that God uses your insecurity to call you to Himself
Some feelings of insecurity are normal:
Because we are humans living in a sinful world
Because we desire to be members of community

Those feelings:
Help us to be aware of our needs
Call/drive us to God and His Word
Help us see our inadequacy
Call us to dependency on God
Call us to interdependent community
Call us to secure healthy friendships

God is the only one who will never hurt or disappoint you
God’s security allows you to reach out beyond your comfort zone
God’s security allows you to face rejection

How many men did the woman-at-the-well need to give her security?
How much faith did Peter have in Christ’s security when walking on the water?
God was the answer to both of their needs.

Healing for insecurity
Beliefs produce thoughts and behaviors
Bring beliefs into control of the power of God and Scripture
Slowly remove protective, defensive behaviors
They need to be confronted with their sinful behavior
They need to be shown (repeatedly) that they are valuable
They need to be told (repeatedly) that they are important
They do not need the approval of controllers to be/feel valuable

Insecurity can be a strong hold by Satan on your life
Insecurity is rejection of God’s statements of love for you and your value to Him
Psalms 27:10 When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me.

Deal with sin
Sin can hide feelings of insecurity
Sin provides self-meds: porn, drugs, excessive sleep, overly dependent relationships, etc.
Sin is the source of pride and arrogance

Take steps to find healing
Find safe, healthy people with whom to associate
Be vulnerable (go slowly.)
Gently challenge the manipulators in your life
Do not allow them to make you feel guilty or dependent
Reject the images and illusions of perfection
Reject the images and voices of failure and inadequacy
Do not over-react – take care to not “throw out the baby with the bath water”
Do not reject an entire system because of some unfortunate experiences
Seek and build healthy relationships and communities

Problems in the healing process
It can be difficult to think clearly when coming out of emotional stresses
Truth can be confused with error when you move to jettison wrong thinking
It is very difficult to move away from controlling situations and controlling people.
Insecure leaders who have power and prestige will corrupt any organization and many people
Those who reject manipulation are typically labeled rebellious by insecure leaders
Insecure people always interpret confidence and ability as arrogance and pride

Claim God’s promises:
II Timothy 1:7 Do not have a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
Romans 8:1-2 I am free from condemnation. No one can make you guilty.
Colossians 2:9-10 I am complete in Christ. No one can make you need them.
John 8:32 – You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free. You can be set free.


If you are insecure and have allowed that insecurity to control you,
If your insecurity has made you a controller/manipulator,
If your insecurity has made you a bully,
If your insecurity has made you hurt other people,
If your insecurity has made you insensitive to other people,
If your insecurity has made you hide behind a wall of selfishness,
If your insecurity has made you vulnerable to manipulators,
If your insecurity has driven you to allow people to control you,
If your insecurity has allowed people to abuse you,
If your insecurity has driven you to seek refuge in powerful controllers,
If your insecurity has driven you to remain in an abusive situation,
You can be set free.

Tell the truth
Tell the truth with love
Tell the truth about yourself
Tell the truth to yourself
Tell the truth about your past
Tell the truth about your behavior
Tell the truth about God

The truth will set you free
It may hurt, but it will set you free.
It will be a journey, but it will set you free.
God will be with you, and He will set you free.

Blessings as you seek and accept His freedom today
Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.
John 8:36

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