The Good Father
The good father is a mixture of love and discipline.
Discipline is a part of love.
Discipline is sourced in love.
Discipline creates more love.
Discipline produces obedience.
Discipline produces joyful obedience.
Discipline is the way the father’s face shines on his children.
Discipline brings out the best in us.
Joyful obedience produces more love.
We love those who discipline us in love.
Children love parents who raise them with discipline and love.
Doting parents do not really love their children.
Disciplining parents do really love their children
God’s love provided discipline for His Son –
Though He (Jesus) were a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which he suffered – Hebrews 5:8.
God’s words of blessing for His Son came after the Son obediently “fulfilled all righteousness” by submitting to baptism.
Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy son.
Fathers cannot protect their children from all pain and hurt, but a father’s loving discipline will sustain the children through that pain. Love provides discipline. Love does not prevent or avoid discipline. Love is discipline and discipline is love.
Love is not doting and not indulgence – Jesus calling was to suffer and die. His Father’s love gave Him strength for this. Death is not feared, death has purpose if love is the reason. Love is a worthy reason to die.
If father (or mother) does not feel secure in the love of God, he/she can not adequately transfer and transmit that love to the children. Parents then tend to correct by expressing disapproval. That disapproval produces performance based living that is impossible to live up to and sets up the child for life-long struggle and sometimes failure.
Families and churches can produce fear based repentance and performance based living. That produces weak bonds between God and people and also between people. Love based repentance produces strong bonds between God and His people. Love based living produces strong bonds between people also.
The lack of father’s love produces a curse. Malachi 4 warns of a curse – a curse of lack of father’s love if the fathers do not have the heart of their children and the children do not have the hearts of the fathers. If only people would understand love. Love reaches out. Love blesses. Love sustains. Love heals.
Astorge (lack of family love) is a warning in II Tim. 3:1-5 where several of the problems listed are about wrong concepts of love.
It is important that men and fathers be safe and strong and good to their families. But also that they are present with courage and discipline as they raise their children. This shows that they delight in their children. The combination of love and discipline shows delight in the best interests of the children
When someone delights in you enough to invest in your life, you are changed. Your self perception is changed. You are changed in your own mind. You are changed in the minds of others. That delight produces trust and love that cannot be arrived at in any other way. That delight gives strength beyond your years.
22 And the LORD spoke to Moses, saying:
23 “Speak to Aaron and his sons, saying,
‘This is the way you shall bless the children of Israel. Say to them:
24 “The LORD bless you and keep you;
25 The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you;
26 The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.”‘
27 “So they shall put My name on the children of Israel, and I will bless them.“