Angry Women and the Men Who Love Them
Angry Women and the Men Who Love Them
Anger is a subtle emotion. It can mask itself in many ways – being overly concerned with other’s issues, demanding your own way and on and on and on. There is a popular book titled: Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them. It is a good read.
This post is to bring some balance to the story. There are angry women out there also. Many of the characteristics of angry men are true for women also.
Characteristics of angry women:
Many have emotional hurts and wounds. Some of them do not really understand what it means to love and to be loved. They are constantly grasping at any possible love and attention that is available. They are defensive and demanding.
They are jealous and impatient. They “wear the pants” and subject their spouse to emotional abuse. They have unrealistic expectations and are not thankful. They have boundaries that are too tight or too loose.
They know how to keep people guessing and off-balance. All of this is intentional or unintentional control; but control to be sure. They are wanting love but hiding from it at the same time.
What about the men?
Many men toil faithfully every day to support thankless families. Wives take their husband’s pay check for granted. Children expect more and more.
Many live lives of quiet frustration and exasperation. They sometimes struggle to keep thoughts of failure and even suicide at bay. There never seems to be enough money to go around. The neighbors take vacations and buy new vehicles and spend thoughtlessly. How to survive?
They wake up early and work late with little appreciation. Wives expect them to be good providers, involved fathers, and kind husbands; never thinking of the energy it takes just to rise and work another day. Many times employers and customers are demanding also and life goes on.
Men, take heart. Being taken for granted is part of life. Ladies understand that and so must you. Life is not about you. Life is about faithfulness. Life is about giving 100% all the time.
Diligent, mundane faithfulness is part of life for women and for men. Let’s learn to appreciate each other: our mothers, fathers, wives, husbands and all those who work diligently daily to bring up our children and grandchildren. Let’s be grateful instead of complaining. Let’s use personal discipline and put our best foot forward for each other.
Each life has a story – many of them difficult. Today is the day God is calling us to faithfulness to Him and to each other. Today is the day to be grateful for God and to God for the life He has given you. And for the lives He has given you to cherish. Take time today to thank the persons He has given you to love. Do not withhold love from others because God wants His love to flow through you to them.
The wrong kinds of anger will get you nowhere. Masked anger will get you deeper into despair. There are people who love you. There are people God has given you to love. Whether you are man or woman, God wants you to love and be loved.
Give love so others do not have to grasp for love. Love others so they can experience God’s love through you. Do not point at your friend or your spouse. Do your part. That is what God expects of you.
We are links in the chain of culture and faith. We are raising another generation of links in that chain. Our parents have made mistakes and so will we. That is no reason to despair. Love covers a multitude of sins.
Marriage is designed by God to bring healing to both spouses. All are hurt and hurting and all need love. Unconditional love and acceptance will provide the healing that we all need.
Men – love and honor and cherish your wife. Love and discipline your children. Be the head of the home as a good shepherd. You are responsible for your home.
Women – love and honor and respect your husband. Teach your children. Do not allow children to be disrespectful to each other or to anyone. You set the tone for the family.
Do not be the angry spouse. Be the loving spouse. Out-do your spouse in seeing how kind and loving you can be. Do not be overcome of evil but over come evil with good. Amen.