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Codependency – Or Reconciliation – Part VI

by on February 14, 2018

Codependency – Or Reconciliation – Part VI

The Pursuit of Reconciliation

Jesus made the path to fellowship clear. The path is forgiveness. If you have been offended, Jesus has a path for you to follow for reconciliation.

1. You, as the offended, Go and tell the offense to the offender so you can gain your offender. If the first attempt fails, take someone with you on the second visit. If that fails, present the situation to the Church.
Matt. 18:15-20.

2. When you bring your gift to the altar and remember that there is an offender; you, as the offended, leave your gift and go to the offender and be reconciled before offering your gift.
Matt. 5:23-24.

This path to unity and mutual care via forgiveness is the path of true love. It is valuing each other more than being right or defending personal rights. It is putting reconciliation above and ahead of individual desires. It is making restoration an integral part of Church and worship by making reconciliation a matter of the Church and a requisite for worship.

This is the inconceivable, unexplainable pursuit of one of God’s children by another of God’s children. In today’s world, that pursuit is thought of as invasive and violating. How sad. The ways of Jesus are made out to be wrong in favor of isolation and individualization of life. Community is lost in self-determination.

Jesus’ pattern does not fit with individualism and personal rights. We quickly blame those who offend us without attempting to correct the issues by personal encounter. When we blame, we excuse our attitudes and behaviors as the other person’s problem. That is not the way of Jesus.

Allender & Longman in Bold Love make this clear. People recognize the need for love but to take love to the degree that Jesus takes it has become unacceptable. Today that is considered to be a “symptom of the sickness called codependency.”

How sad. We have coined a term – codependency – to free us from the personal responsibility we have to display the love of Jesus to each other as members of His kingdom. That inconceivable, unexplainable pursuit of love has come to be thought of as sickness. How sad. The very counsel of Jesus to place others ahead of self, and pursue what is needed to maintain fellowship with others, is rejected in favor of personal interests.

Jesus’ counsel of face to face encounter is unquestionably the most useful, albeit sometimes painful, path to resolving matters of relationships. It was called The Rule of Christ. Mennonites adopted this Scriptural rule as the manner of Church order. Brethren discovered this Scriptural concept when they met the Mennonites.

To teach and practice anything else is a sickness.
Loving each other with the rule of Christ is the way of reconciliation.
Loving each other with The Rule of Christ is the way of Jesus.

We only live when our lives are lived for others and for God’s Kingdom.

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